if not today, then why make your promises?
**** We have had sort of a hard week at the Y. Over all, there is such good stuff going on; such good energy, hard work and fun things. This week however, we've seen a lot of difficult behavior from the kids. The kind of extreme behavior--- aggression and upset-- that only comes from a few children, but is so loud and clear that it rubs off and effects the whole group.
So what can we do? We are far enough into the school year that we've identified the few kids who are having the hardest time and are engaging in the most challenging, mean and sometimes dangerous behavior. So what do you do with this knowledge?
What do you do with those kids? How do you Understand and address that unhealthy behavior? You can't ignore it. You can't hope that it will go away on its own.... it is here to stay until there is some real, true and believable reason for it to go away.
I really don't know what to do, but that isn't a good enough excuse anymore to stand here doing nothing! SO, tomorrow will be the beginning of some one on one art sessions with members of our little group...... I've been thinking it over for a while, so let's calm down and start drawing----- mark making is very telling, the way that we handle materials is telling and therapeutic. learning to take care of something over time is healthy.
Project one is book making--- I will bring materials to create a special book for each child in this little group. We will work one on one in a quiet place. The book will include photos of them. that's the plan so far. working with children one at a time is so different that working with a group---- often so much more space for important things to happen. being a child in a group can be so over stimulating, step one is winding down through the process of making.
A later step will be finding ways to sustain this calm (if we happen to find it)
My friend Deborah shared this video with me a few weeks ago--- http://blog.onbeing.org/post/897441497/a-world-through-the-hands-by-trent-gilliss
please check it out. please do whatever you can, even if you don't know for sure that it is gaurenteed to fix things---- do what you can with good intention, whenever you can. It will pay off. I know it.



